REPAIRING THE DAMAGE
Good judgment, careful sense of timing, courage and prudence –
these are the qualities we shall need when we take Step Nine.
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 83
To make amends can be viewed two ways: first, that of repairing
damage, for if I have damaged my neighbor’s fence, I “make a mend,”
and that is a direct amend; the second way is by modifying my
behavior, for if my actions have harmed someone. I make a daily
effort to cause no further harm. I “mend my ways,” and that is
an indirect amend. Which is the best approach? The only right
approach, provided that I am causing no further harm in so doing,
is to do both. If harm is done, then I simply “mend my ways.”
To take action in this manner assures me of making honest amends.