Our Folded Hands

Women helping Women. Reaching out to the Sister who still suffers. Helping each other through the Good times and the Difficult times. To get to the SOBER way of life, One Day at a Time.

Daily Readings And Meditations

Pretty Purple Flowers

New Beginnings

Who will I be today? The “Cosmopolitan” woman, the little girl, the scholar, the mother? Who will I be to answer the needs of others, and yet answer the needs of me?  —Deidra Sarault— We wear many hats. One aspect of our maturity is our ability to balance our roles. It’s often quite difficult to do so; however, the program offers us many tools for balancing our lives. Fulfilling some of the needs of significant others in our lives brings us joy.  Our own needs must be given priority, though. We cannot give away what we don’t have, and we have nothing unless we give sincere attention and love to ourselves. In years gone by, we may have taken too little care of others, or we overdid it. In either case, we probably neglected ourselves. Most of us starved ourselves spiritually, many of us emotionally, a few physically. We were all too often “all-or-nothing” women. Today we’re aware of our choices. We’ve been making a number of good ones lately: We’re abstinent. We’re living the Steps. And we’re choosing how to spend our time, and what to do with our lives. But no choice will turn out very well if we haven’t taken care of ourselves. I will center on myself. I will nurture the maturing woman within and then reach out.

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“I WAS AN EXCEPTION” He [Bill W.] said to me, gently and simply, “Do you think that you are one of us?” ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 413 During my drinking life I was convinced I was an exception. I thought I was beyond petty requirements and had the right to be excused. I never realized that the dark counterbalance of my attitude was the constant feeling that I did not “belong.” At first, in A.A., I identified with others only as an alcoholic. What a wonderful awakening for me it has been to realize that, if human beings were doing the best they could, then so was I! All of the pains, confusions and joys they feel are not exceptional, but part of my life, just as much as anybody’s.

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…we both want a joy of undeep and unabiding things… —Gwendolyn Brooks… When I can live fully in each moment, I can open myself to beauties that might otherwise escape me entirely. The more attune I am to what is really going on right now, which means unhooking my mind from preoccupation with the past and worry about the future, the freer I am to catch fleeting perceptions and subtle shifts in the world about me. We know that we only use about 10 percent of our brain’s capacity for the ordinary business of living, which includes building space shuttles and filing tax returns. The more fully we can bring ourselves to each moment, the more of our capacity is available for living. Life isn’t last year, or ten minutes from now; it’s now, this moment, which will pass and be followed by more passing moments, a flow of time in which we’re carried forward. Our journey is smoothed when we learn to let go, and it’s eased by the joy we learn to take in “undeep and unabiding things.” Paradoxical but true: I’ll find lasting happiness only when I let go of the notion of permanence.

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Keep It Simple

. . . he who finds himself loses his misery. —Matthew Arnold— We have lost a lot of misery. In it’s place inside us, a spirit grows. . . as love is added. Especially self-love. In our illness, we came to hate ourselves. It was really our illness we hated. We couldn’t find ourselves. All we saw was what others saw—our illness. In recovery, we’ve found ourselves again. We’ve found we’re good people. We’ve also come to love the world around us. We see we have something to offer this world—ourselves. Why? Because we have found ourselves. Prayer for the Day:  I’m so glad to be alive. At times life hurts, but, in living, I found You. Thank-you Higher Power. I pray that we may always be close. Action for the Day:  I will list ten great things I’ve discovered about myself in recovery.

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Thought For The Day

Step Twelve is, “Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.” Note that the basis of our effectiveness in carrying the message to others is the reality of our own spiritual awakening. If we have not changed, we cannot be used to change others. To keep this program, we must pass it on to others. We cannot keep it for ourselves. We may lose it unless we give it away. It cannot flow into us and stop; it must continue to flow into us as it flows out to others. Meditation For The Day “Draw nigh unto God and He will draw nigh unto you.” When you are faced with a problem beyond your strength, you must turn to God by an act of faith. It is that turning to God in each trying situation that you must cultivate. The turning may be one of glad thankfulness for God’s grace in your life. Or your appeal to God may be a prayerful claiming of His strength to face a situation and finding that you have it when the time comes. Not only the power to face trials, but also the comfort and joy of God’s nearness and companionship are yours for the asking. Prayer For The Day I pray that I may try to draw near to God each day in prayer. I pray that I may feel His nearness and His strength in my life.

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My Thoughts For The Day

🌻Hello Beautiful, Courageous, Talented Loving Lady ❗💃🎨   …What a wonderful morning we have arisen to…🌄🌝… Seeking the peace from within, that our inner voice speaks to our hearts, the soothing POSITIVE Love it brings…👼 🦋🕊… Even when we are confused and baffled, angry or depressed…🙁😤😭 … and that there is usually always another alcoholic just a phone call away, or a meeting away …👩‍👩‍👦‍👦🗣🤳  …And that WE are never Alone ❗… We do not have to live today by Feelings and Emotions… We are Growing up into a Spiritual PROGRAM of Action, that helps us RELEASE the HOSTAGES …👩‍👩‍👧🤺… and Drop the weapons …🔪🧛‍♀️⚔🍺💊💣🔫… Our Characters Defects …🤑🤬😳… our words and actions can keep us trapped… And we Can rationalize with ourselves, but in truth… WE ARE HUMAN AND THIS IS A NEW DAY … A GREAT DAY… AND WE ARE FREE TO DO IT DIFFERENT❗… 🎈❤🎀🎁🤸😍🤗🤗🤗🤣😄😅🦄🐤🐾🦋🌷💮✌👍💋💋💋… You are Phenomenal and Have a Great day, Because YOU my Valuable SISTER are So WORTH IT❗…😘😘😘

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