Our Folded Hands

Women helping Women. Reaching out to the Sister who still suffers. Helping each other through the Good times and the Difficult times. To get to the SOBER way of life, One Day at a Time.

Daily Readings And Meditations

Pretty Purple Flowers

New Beginnings

I feel we have picked each other from the crowd as fellow-travelers, for neither of us is to the other’s personality the end-all and the be-all.  —Joanna Field— We must look around at the people in our lives today, and know that we have something special to offer each of them, and they to us. We do travel separate paths together. We may need to learn tolerance; perhaps a friend’s behavior pushes us to be more tolerant. Impatience may be our nemesis, and everywhere we turn are lines, slow cash registers, traffic jams. Our experiences with others aren’t chance. Fellow travelers are carefully selected by the inner self, the spiritual guide who understands our needs in this life. We are both the teachers and the pupils. We need both our friends and those we may label our enemies for what they can help us learn. I will carefully look about me today with gladness at the travelers I’ve selected to learn from.

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Reflections

HITTING BOTTOM Why all this insistence that every A.A. must hit bottom first? The answer is that few people will sincerely try to practice the A.A. program unless they have hit bottom. For practicing A.A.’s remaining eleven Steps means the adoption of attitudes and actions that almost no alcoholic who is still drinking can dream of taking. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 24 Hitting bottom opened my mind and I became willing to try something different. What I tried was A.A. My new life in the Fellowship was a little like learning how to ride a bike for the first time: A.A. became my training wheels and my supporting hand. It’s not that I wanted the help so much at the time; I simply did not want to hurt like that again. My desire to avoid hitting bottom again was more powerful than my desire to drink. In the beginning that was what kept me sober. But after a while I found myself working the Steps to the best of my ability. I soon realized that my attitudes and actions were changing – if ever so slightly. One Day at a Time, I became comfortable with myself, and others, and my hurting started to heal. Thank God for the training wheels and supporting hand that I choose to call Alcoholics Anonymous.

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Promise

We are partakers of a common nature, and the same causes that contribute to the benefit of one contribute to the benefit of another. —William Godwin… Ecology, the study of how all life fits together, has an emotional dimension. We all know people who are emotional polluters. Bullies, gossips, or self-pitiers spread a noxious influence; no one wants to be around them. Often they’re gifted people, and sometimes they’re in positions of power over others. It’s difficult to keep our own clarity among the belching smokestacks of an emotional polluter. But our ecology—our interconnectedness—means that, potentially, we influence them as much as they influence us. If we can stay out of their poison, refuse to play, we can help to clean up the atmosphere. Our ordinary notions of politeness often lead us to encourage emotional polluters. We may not see that our tacit acceptance and cooperation harms both us and them. Let us use our faith in our common nature to behave cleanly; we will thereby help others to clean up their acts. I’ll try not to confuse politeness with pollution.

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Keep It Simple

Fair play is primarily not blaming others for anything that is wrong with us.—Eric Hoffer— It’s tempting to blame others for our problems. Recovery asks us to answer for our actions. Admitting we are powerless over our actions. Admitting we are powerless over our alcohol and other drugs is a start. Each of the Twelve Steps asks us to answer for our actions in some way. And the program shows us how to do this. Over time, we see that being responsible for our actions is the best way to live. Our self-confidence grows as we become more responsible. We start to see just how much we can do. We have gone from being drunks to being responsible people. If we can do this, then we can do anything! Prayer for the Day:  I pray to remember that I’m responsible for my actions. Blaming puts distance between me and other people. Higher Power, help me to play fair. Action for the Day:  Today, I’ll list four times I’ve blamed someone else for a problem that  was really my problem.

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Thought For The Day

The A.A. program is more a way of building a new life than just a way of getting over drinking, because in A.A. we don’t just stop drinking. We did that plenty of times in the old days when we went “on the wagon.” And, of course, we always started to drink again, because we were only waiting for the time when we could fall off. Once we’ve gotten sober through the A.A. program, we start going uphill. In our drinking days, we were going downhill, getting worse and worse. We either go down or up. Am I going uphill, getting better and better?Meditation For The Day I will try to obey God’s will day in and day out, in the wilderness plains as well as on the mountaintops of experience. It is in the daily strivings that perseverance counts. I believe that God is Lord of little things, the Divine Controller of little happenings. I will persevere in this new way of life. I know that nothing in the day is too small to be a part of God’s scheme. Prayer For The Day I pray that the little stones which I put into the mosaic of my life may make a worthwhile pattern. I pray that I may persevere and so find harmony and beauty.  

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My Thoughts For The Day

💐Good morning Lovely Dove, Precious Beauty of the world ❗🧚‍♀️🌎🕊…What a wonderful day to get out of ourselves…🌅👩‍❤️‍ …So often we get caught up juggling all life’s dealings…🤹‍♀️🛒🚦🚗⛽🏭 … The list goes on and on…📝… it’s more a wonder that we even have time to catch a breath, let alone a meeting, time with a sponsor to work a step, or to pray and meditate…🤯🗣🙏 …But we Must make the Time for Our PROGRAMS, GOD, and to keep the Disease treated for this 24 hours, or we suffer, and those around us suffer from our Self-centeredness, selfishness, our Attitudes and our misdirected Motives…😕😤👺..So We can Just EXCUSE OURSELVES TODAY… Be it 10 minutes or 1/2 the day, But we take what We can GET…😀😜 … it is taking the time to get what We NEED…OUR MEDICINE ❗❗😉😇🙏👭📘…So we can be The BEST WE CAN to GOD, OURSELVES and ANOTHER HUMAN BEING ❗🌈✨👼 …I Believe It Starts on the INSIDE and We Work OUR WAY OUT…🚹+🙇‍♀️=💃…Have a Blessed day and if no one has told YOU today, ” I LOVE YOU ❗ “…😘💖💝👩‍❤️  🌺🐰🐼🐤🐦🦋💐🌾🌹✨🌊☕🍩😘😘😘

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