. . . a spiritual life which does not include . . . family
obligations may not be so perfect after all.
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 129
I can be doing great in the program–applying it at meetings,
at work, and in service activities–
gone to pieces at home. I expect my loved ones to understand,
but they cannot. I expect them to see and value my progress,
but they don’t–unless I show them. Do I neglect their needs
and desire for my attention and concern? When I’m around them,
am I irritable or boring? Are my “amends” a mumbled “Sorry,”
or do they take the form of patience and tolerance? Do I
preach to them, trying to reform or “fix” them? Have I ever
really cleaned house with them? “The spiritual life is not a
theory. We have to live it.”
(Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 83).