If you attach yourself to one person, you ultimately end up having an unhealthy relationship. —Shirley MacLaine—
Needing people in our lives is healthy, human and natural. Needing a single person to love at a very deep level,
is also soothing to the soul’s well-being. Love and attachment are not synonymous, however. They are close to being
opposites. If we “attach” ourselves to others, our movements as separate individuals are hampered. Attachment means
dependency; it means letting our movements be controlled by the one we are “hooked” to.
Dependency on mood-altering chemicals, on food, on people, means unmanageability in our individual lives.
Many of us in this recovery program, though abstinent, still struggle with our dependency on a certain person or a
The tools we are learning apply in all cases of dependency. It is healthy independence we are striving for–
taking responsibility for our own lives–making choices appropriate for our personal selves. Loving others means
letting them make their own choices unhampered by our “attachment.”
Are my relationships attachments or are they based on love? I will take an inventory of them today.