Our Folded Hands

Women helping Women. Reaching out to the Sister who still suffers. Helping each other through the Good times and the Difficult times. To get to the SOBER way of life, One Day at a Time.

Pretty Purple Flowers

Each day a new Beginning

If you attach yourself to one person, you ultimately end up having an unhealthy relationship.  —Shirley MacLaine—
Needing people in our lives is healthy, human and natural. Needing a single person to love at a very deep level,

is also soothing to the soul’s well-being. Love and attachment are not synonymous, however. They are close to being

opposites. If we “attach” ourselves to others, our movements as separate individuals are hampered. Attachment means

dependency; it means letting our movements be controlled by the one we are “hooked” to.
Dependency on mood-altering chemicals, on food, on people, means unmanageability in our individual lives.

Many of us in this recovery program, though abstinent, still struggle with our dependency on a certain person or a

certain friend.
The tools we are learning apply in all cases of dependency. It is healthy independence we are striving for–

taking responsibility for our own lives–making choices appropriate for our personal selves. Loving others means

letting them make their own choices unhampered by our “attachment.”
Are my relationships attachments or are they based on love? I will take an inventory of them today.