Female friendships that work are relationships in which women help each other to belong to themselves.
—Louise Bernikow—
To have anything worth giving to a friend, we must belong to ourselves. Are we someone we like?
Does our behavior agree with our beliefs? Do our friends share our values, and when we are together do we support one another? If we don’t like our own company, we will try to hide our real selves.
The more we hide, the further we are running from wholeness and health. We can assess ourselves, calmly and lovingly, so that we can keep on becoming the women we want to be. The more congruent are our behavior and our beliefs, the more we belong to ourselves. The better we like ourselves, the better friends we can be.
The love and sympathy of my women friends can help me in my spiritual journey toward serenity,
and I can help theirs. Today, I will accompany others on their journey, and thus find company for my own.