Our Folded Hands

Women helping Women. Reaching out to the Sister who still suffers. Helping each other through the Good times and the Difficult times. To get to the SOBER way of life, One Day at a Time.

Promise of a new Day

Though the seas threaten, they are merciful, I have cursed them without cause. —William Shakespeare—

To each of us, our own self is the most important person in the world. I am the only person who can get what I want; you are the only person who can make you happy or unhappy. This doesn’t mean that the world revolves around us, though.
When we were infants, we believed it did. We valued things according to how they affected us. A rainstorm was good if it meant we didn’t have to visit relatives who bored us, but it was bad if it spoiled a picnic. We took everything personally.
It’s not easy to give up being the center of the universe; some of us cling to the notion long after we’ve given up bottles and diapers. But once we acknowledge the impersonality of most events, we can stop taking responsibility for the weather, foreign policy, the outcome of labor negotiations. We can stop taking other people’s actions personally. Other people don’t really get sick of us, succeed or fail for our benefit, or live or die because of us. It’s wonderful to take the pressure off.
The only thing I need to take personally is my person.